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Female Orgasm Techniques
If one wants to improve female orgasm techniques
it is of vital
importance to strengthen
the pelvic musculature in general. Whipple and Perry
stated in 1980, “the
strength of a woman’s pubococcygeus muscle is directly
related to her ability to
reach orgasm through intercourse”. And further; “Women
can learn to strengthen
their pubococcygeus muscles or to relax them if they are
too tense.
It is essential to train
this muscle daily with squeezing exercises. If one
breaks an arm or a leg,
many of us know that already after a few weeks in a
cask, there is a loss of
both size and strength of the muscles in the leg or
arm. Yet, we tend to
believe that the sexually related muscles can remain
inactive for long periods
of time and then are in good shape when the right
partner turns up!
At the very beginning of sexual stimulation, both
men and women experience
light contractions in the
genital muscles. After each contraction there is an
increase of blood
circulation. This occurs before one starts to notice
moisturizing of the
vagina. A tip is to consciously contract the pubococcygeus
muscles at that stage, to
increase the blood circulation. Our Daisy cream also
has the same effect of
enlarging the blood vessels, so that an erection of
clitoris
is enhanced and
this in its turn sends signals to the whole sexual
system to get activated.
See article of enhanced female orgasm .
We know today that more
than two thirds of all women are dependent on
clitoral
stimulation in
order to reach an orgasm, something that can explain a
lot of frustration and
disappointments. Only some 30 % can reach an orgasm via
intercourse only, as
reported in the Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of the
Female Sexuality, 1976.
Another important female orgasm technique is to learn
about deep
breathing. Deep
inhalation and strong exhalation promotes opening up for deep
sensations, which can be
even more deepened by making sounds.
Erogenous zones are
important to explore and stimulate. The body is a large
and complicated
instrument that can be taught to resonate if all its different
parts are played with.
Moving the body will also
deepen, stimulate and liberate the orgasmic
potential.
Both men and women should
learn female orgasm techniques. The woman’s own
responsibility to do so
has been claimed by the Grand Old Lady herself in this
area – Betty Dodson,
since
the 1970’s. She has published several books, including
the bestseller “Sex for
One (1986, 1996). Getting to know oneself and
one’s own orgasmic
potential makes a woman liberated and strong. As a
professional and active
artist, she started to realize in the sixties how the
norms of society repress
and oppress female sexuality, and since then she has
helped by pushing the
borders. We receive our own first perceptions of our
genitals as we masturbate
as children. We say yes to sexuality in this its most
basic form and continue
to develop ourselves throughout our whole lives! She
meant, that we always
should keep our sexual energy alive and to continue to
develop our technique. To
get away from shame and guilt and enjoy the healthy
erotic satisfaction and
accept masturbation as a sound expression for sexuality,
is her advice.
Betty Dodson has during
more than 30 years helped many women on her courses
to accept masturbation
without shame. Her comments to various ideas that
masturbation should be
considered asocial are; “On the contrary, to be sexually
oppressed is asocial!”
Worst of all the mis perceptions she finds, is the idea
that masturbation is
something that can be done as a poor substitute for the
real thing. It should on
the contrary be conceived of as a full sexual
experience, parallel with
other sexual expressions. Betty Dodson also claims
that it is unnecessary to
compare different forms of orgasms, since “an orgasm
is always an orgasm”,
independent from what or from where they are triggered.
Orgasm, according to her,
is:
“The sexual tension,
which has been building up by some form of genital
stimulation, and then is
released, followed sometimes but not always by minor or
larger contractions in
the whole body, followed by spasmic contractions in the
pelvic musculature (or
pubococcygeus muscle), which for some women, but not all,
can be felt in the
uterus, vagina, clitoris and anus. Orgasm has its peak in an
ejaculation for most men
and for some women. There might be several phases of
pulsating explosions and
releases”.
Most women are dependent
on a vibrator in order to received proper
stimulation of the
clitoris while masturbating. The fact that a dildo also can
be of use for a woman is
not any different from men holding their own penis
while masturbating. To be
able to control one’s female orgasmic technique gives
women a sense of strength
and liberating self-assurance. If women are deprived
of the right to their own
bodies, they also don’t have any possibilities to
discover or develop their
own sexual response. Also Whipple and Perry encourage
women, just as men do, to
get to know their own genitalia and to masturbate.
They claim that there are
important physiological as well as psychological
reasons for this.
Still, for far too many,
feelings of shame and guilt are still hindering a
truly joyful attitude
towards masturbation. The anthropologist Mary Douglas has
studied the connection
between feelings of pollution or shame and taboo in
different societies with
different social norms, and she writes; “Pollution
dangers strike when form
has been attacked”. * Borders are maintained with the
aid of taboos and
feelings of guilt, shame and pollution. Is this then, where
the border shall be
maintained – that women don’t know their own orgasmic
technique?
It might also be taken
into consideration by what construction material these
borders are built? (Douglas, Mary: Purity and
Danger. An analysis of the Concepts of Pollution and Taboo p.
104. London, 1966)
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